Developing Others Through Coaching Training: Coaching Conversation:Tasha

Trusting God With Family and Ministry Timing

Key Moments & Quotations

• Counselor: “So am I hearing you correctly that maybe the timing is what you're wrestling with…?”
• Husband’s desire: “He wants us to have four children…he thinks that, if God wants me to be in ministry, I will get there.”
• Friend’s counsel: “Maybe that’s God speaking to you through him, and your role as the wife is…to submit.”
• My own dawning insight: “I think I was trying to run toward the horizon without taking each step.”
• Decision point: “I feel pretty confident right now that we can actually do this together…I don’t have to do it on my own.”

Heartfelt Reflections

• I felt torn—longing to obey God’s clear tug toward women’s ministry yet also wanting to honor my husband’s longing for two more children.
• I realized my “pros and cons” list stayed perfectly balanced because I was afraid of making a definitive choice.
• Hearing my own words echoed back helped me notice that adding to our family doesn’t shut the door on ministry; it might actually be the ministry God intends first.
• A subtle breakthrough: obedience may look like accepting God’s pace, not rushing ahead in my own effort.
• I’m relieved and hopeful; the path isn’t either/or but both/and, taken step-by-step with the Lord.

Scriptural Resonance

• Genesis 1:28 – “Be fruitful and multiply…” The verse resurfaced as I questioned whether the desire for more children could itself be God’s leading.

Theological & Pastoral Insights

• Vocation and Calling: Motherhood and formal ministry are not competing callings; both can glorify God when pursued in faithful obedience.
• Submission & Unity in Marriage: Listening for God’s voice through my husband models mutual respect and trust in God’s design for marriage (Eph. 5 rhythms implicitly present).
• Providence & Timing: God’s purposes unfold over years; waiting is not disobedience when it springs from trust rather than fear.

Practical Next Steps

• Have an open, affirming conversation with my husband tonight, sharing my readiness to grow our family and continue my current women’s group.
• Maintain leadership of my women’s health and weight-loss life group as ongoing “training” for future ministry.
• Keep one evening a week reserved for personal growth in ministry skills (reading, mentoring, or coursework done from home).
• Pray regularly for discernment about formal schooling, revisiting that question after the next baby (or babies) arrive.

Follow-Up Plans

• Schedule a check-in conversation with the counselor to review how the talk with my husband went and how I’m balancing family and ministry—date to be set soon.